Farida Dahee

Certified Image Consultant & Etiquette Expert

Are we too eager to send our kids to school?

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We Indians will teach kids even before they are born!!! Parents have such big aspirations from their kids, some have their own unfulfilled dreams & some are way too eager to produce the next Einstein!!!

With so much competition, some of them getting a perfect 100% it’s not surprising for parents to be eager to start sending their kids to school before they have learnt to walk or talk.

My own experience of sending my daughter to a big school which was up to the 10th grade, when she was in the nursery turned out to be a huge mistake. I’m not trying to degrade any school or parents perspective, all I’m doing is sharing my opinion through what I experienced.

It’s time we end the rat race & understand that each child is different & cater to them accordingly. It’s important to understand a child’s readiness through their cognitive, social, and emotional ability. Not every 2 year old will start talking and not every 3 year old will be able to hold the pencil, so watch your child’s development independently & not by comparing with other kids. Overall health and well-being may be compared to a general comparison chart that the pediatrician gives but if they don’t ‘fit in’ doesn’t mean they will not grow or put on weight. Sometimes genetics do play a role in overall development, so give them time & be patient.

Now the question remains when is the “right age” to start school?

There are a lot of things to consider before selecting a school for your child, and this may vary from parent to parent on a case-by-case basis, taking into consideration social, emotional readiness, as well as cognitive ability. For many parents, evaluating a child’s kindergarten readiness isn’t easy. Most parents decide on kindergarten readiness based on the child’s age, which has been the base for many years but is it right??

Getting admission to a well known school is definitely not easy. Most parents prefer to push their kids to bigger schools, even if they are not ready, in all other aspects but are ‘age ready’, as admissions to most reputed schools start age wise. No sooner the notice board for new admission is put up there will be a beeline of parents waiting to get their hands on the enrollment forms to ensure their child secures a seat.

In my opinion it’s not good to rush to a big school especially for Nursery to Jr. and Sr. KG.

Here are some of the reasons to ponder on before taking that big step.

  1. A school is a new environment for the child, unknown people, separation from the parent, even though it may be for a few hours, it’s a very important step in a child’s life so make sure the school is nearby
  2. Teacher child ratio should not be more than 1:10 as each child is seeking  attention. Do you think it’s justifiable for the teacher to pay attention to so many kids, when we find it difficult to handle one child!
  3. In high schools it’s possible for the little ones to feel lost especially during breaks, seeing so many bigger kids can sometimes be scary for the smaller ones.
  4. Playschools that cater only from Nursery to Sr. KG pay a lot of attention to the décor, ambience, child security, child friendly surroundings, ample of toys, some even have a special kitchen to serve home cooked food to kids, a resting area etc. All these things may not be available with bigger schools. (It was definitely missing where my daughter was enrolled, had boring classrooms)
  5. Teaching method also plays an important role, does the school emphasise on a play-based program, or is it academic focus, to ensure the child gets admission into a higher school
  6. Does it have tie up’s with bigger schools to help in easy transition/admission to Higher Secondary Schools
  7. School timings play a crucial role as small children cannot wake up early, my daughters school started at 8.30 am & we had to leave the house latest by 8.00 am. This was very taxing for her and many a times she would go to sleep in the class which again was a problem.
  8. Last but not the least ensure that the teachers are certified in early childhood education and care. Teaching at a playschool should not be a part time job!!! A preschool teacher must love kids & have utmost patience to deal with them, so its essential to have good knowledge of early childhood care.

Ensure you make your child’s first school experience a memorable one where the child looks forward to attend school. Happy Schooling to all the little ones!

The END can sometimes be the Beginning

Career Dead End
Have you reached the dead end of your career?

Yes, it is possible, in the world we live in, to reach the dead end of one’s career!

Many things can attribute to the end of a job or career. From taking a career break to losing the job to AI, to what you once did has become obsolete! This can happen to anyone men or women, and it does happen. The job you once loved may now no longer be exciting, the people you work with many not contribute towards a healthy relationship, having a bad boss, company shutting down…… the list can go on but is it really the end????? If one looks at it as the “end” then it can be fatal.

There are many people who have hit the dead end and have bounced back with something even better or more exciting. How one copes with such a situation will vary from person to person. The interesting thing about us humans is that we have ‘brains’ and the ‘will’. These two are not enough but definitely important.

When one has given many years to the same job they automatically move into a comfort zone. The thought of losing the job can be scary, yet many brush it off as something that can never happen to them. Life is uncertain, what we once thought is secured, stable, lifelong, may not be.

Is there a foolproof way to secure ones career? Yes & No.

How much ever one upgrades their skills, keeps up to date with the latest technologies etc. there will come a time when we hit the ‘dead end’ & at that time what one needs is the ‘will’. Like Muhammad Ali rightly quoted –“the will must be stronger than the skill.”

If we look at the end as the beginning of something new, it’s strong will, but if we look at it as ‘the end’ everything we have will be of no use.

When faced with such a grim situation, first and foremost accept the truth. Let go of the ego and accept that it has happened and there is not much one can do to undo it but have the courage to face it. Let your loved ones know & make them understand that there will be a way out. Support is one big gift a person needs at such times. Support from friends, family, ex-colleagues, which one gets only if they are willing to ask for it. Do not shy away from talking about it. The more we speak about it the better it is as it helps to        de-stress and figure out a way to move on. We humans are after all social animals, if we don’t talk how is anyone going to help?

The next thing to do is list down strengths, skills and qualifications. Each one has something to bring to the table. Even if it was not used before, we still have it. One doesn’t have to be a master at it. The very fact it’s there make the most of it. It could be anything from good communication skills to good management skills. I’m sure we all gather something good once we start working.

If money is not a constraint then one can upgrade their qualification or skills to meet the new market demand. However, if finances are a big concern then take up something that will meet the monetary needs. Don’t have to get stuck with that job or profession, it’s an ‘interim relief’ till one manages to come out of the situation.

Get some professional guidance, agreed people are ready to give their free advise but that may not be enough, a professional will be able to help in ways a layman cannot. This includes getting a professional profile/C.V.

Last but not the least don’t give up! It’s really not the end……………………………….

Manners will make your child!

Parents are often faced with this question, “when is the right time to start inculcating good manners in my child?” Well, the sooner you start its better for you.

We as parents are more worried about which school should we select for our children than enjoying our little bundle of joy & giving them their own space & time to do things. Home should be the first & best school for every child. Schooling is extremely important but teaching your child the basics, especially manners has to start at home. Don’t expect teachers to do that, it’s every parent’s responsibility. However going overboard may make you sound like a nagging parent, so do it in a very subtle way.

Let’s take an e.g. you have guests at home & they have got a gift for your child, even if your child is yet to start speaking we need to make them accept the gift and say “thank you”  Yes they can read your lips!

Most of the time we fuss over & get stressed about our kids food & eating habits. Hand feeding kids & running around them to feed them is a common scene in most of our houses! Put on their best cartoon TV & feed them that is another wonderful alternative, isn’t it. Well if we have inculcated such bad habits in our kids it becomes extremely difficult to get out of it. Here the best suggestion I would give is get a high chair as soon as your toddler has started to sit. Let them mess up as much as they want to, they will eventually learn.

Similarly there are many good things that need to be taught at home in a way that the child realizes its importance & would want to do it over & over again.

Good luck with your manners & start them now!

Personality Enhancement

Kidiquette workshops are designed to empower children, to develop strong social skills that will help them gain respect for themselves and take control of their destiny by making good choices.

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Dinning Etiquette

In today’s fast paced world parents have taught their kids how to speak correct English but somehow have left a gap when it comes to manners & etiquette. How many times have you judged someone’s child while eating at a restaurant & commented ‘Oh my God why don’t parents teach these kids how to eat? Or how many times have your own kids been judged by others in the same way?

At Kidiquette your child will not only learn the right dining etiquette but will also be more respectful towards others, build self confidence through role plays as they learn the importance of manners.

Let Kidiquette help all those parents overcome embarrassment & anxiety while they dine out with their kids, be it at a restaurant, a party, a family function or even while having guests over.

A solution for all you kids dinning problems- Kidiquette!

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